Married Man Sex Life

You will be unsurprised to hear that I was delighted to see a blog called “Married Man Sex Life”, by Athol Kay, especially after reading his description:

Tired of a tiny trickle of marital sex? Wondering why the hell you even got married in the first place? Basically feel cheated out of the main reason you got married? It’s a all too common tale. Most men are never taught anything about women and marriage, so it’s not all that unexpectted that she confuses you and your attempts to please her fail her more often that not. The truth is for the majority of guys, the woman able to give them the hottest sex possible, and their best shot at lasting happiness, already climbs into bed with them each night with their wedding ring on her finger. Welcome to the journey to reclaim that.

One of his themes, which I know some of my pro-Beta-attribute female readers will appreciate, is that being a good husband is a combination of Alpha and Beta skills.  Alpha for attraction and Beta for comfort, because attraction alone makes for a one-night stand and comfort alone makes for spark-less friendship.  As he says in Be Both Alpha And Beta: The Journey Is The Reward:

I generally disagree with the entire Alpha = good, Beta = bad mindset. You really need to have both Alpha Traits and Beta Traits in a marriage to really hit the sweet spot of happiness and sex. The blog is still new, but believe me I’m going to sound like a broken record on this point as the years play out.

If you’re a decent Beta, the solution is to add Alpha traits, not reduce Beta Traits and add Alpha. It’s not a zero-sum game where you can be either Alpha or Beta, but not both. You can and must be both. You still hold a job down, play with the kids, listen to how your wife spent her day, do housework etc. That’s all vital comfort building goodness. She likes and needs that to feel comfortable, like you’re invested in the relationship and family. These things are not “turn ons”, but lacking them makes them “turn offs”.

In another post, he explains how you can be both alpha and beta.

Other posts to check out include:

• Introduction: “My approach to marriage is part a married spin on Game, part Evolutionary Psychology, part Sex Ed, part Self-Help. Mostly it’s about learning what it is about you that unlocks the Holy Grail between your wifes legs. I will caution you though, some of this stuff I have to tell you is not going to be easy to read. It’s the Red Pill for those that dare.”
• Ovulation Game: Learn Her Cycle and Close On Tuesdays: “around ovulation itself she is going to feel a surge in sexual interest. This is when she is most likely to; experience orgasms, want multiple orgasms, be the wettest, cheat on you and generally seek raw dog Alpha Male pounding. My strong suggestion is that you supply it.”
• What To Do When She Comes Looking For You Wearing Lingerie (a good problem to have!).
• She’s A Nice Place To Visit (But I Wouldn’t Want To Live Her) – my one great worry about the Game community…  it focuses solely on winning sex within the context of the wider hook up culture that has developed and the hook up culture is driven / dependant on… well… sluts who are dumb enough to have sex with someone they’ve only spent seven hours with.

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Tags: alpha, beta, marriage